Trying to Grow Your Child's Confidence? We Can Help!
Most kids struggle with confidence at one time or another. As moms and teachers we have seen this over and over again with our own children and students. But the good news is, there are things you can do to help! Creating an environment at home that allows your child to build this skill is the key. Confidence isn't something everyone is born with. In fact, we would argue that it needs to be developed and practised. So what can you do to start developing confidence in your child? Read on for tips and strategies.
Focus On The Process And Not The End Result
Whenever your child is engaged in an activity encourage them in the process. This is where the learning happens!
Focusing on the process:
- Gives them a sense of accomplishment
- Encourages kids to keep going
- Shows kids that mistakes should be celebrated and are a part of learning
Focusing on the end result:
- Causes frustration
- Leaves them feeling overwhelmed
- Can hinder learning
Here are a few examples of how you can re frame an activity to focus on the process for your child:
Instead of, "Can you sink 10 baskets in a row?"
Try, "I love watching you play basketball! Can you show me how to bounce the ball?"
Instead of, "Can you read this whole book?"
Try, "I love watching you read! What is your favorite part so far?"
Instead of, "Can you draw a dinosaur?"
Try, "I love watching you draw! Can I join you?"
You'll be amazed at how focusing on the process can boost a child's learning and their confidence! Here are some other ways to help build confidence in your child.
Thing You Can Do Right Now To Build Your Child's Confidence
- Encourage their successes: Praise and celebrate your child's accomplishments, no matter how small.
- Boost their self-esteem: Give your child honest compliments and encourage them to take pride in their efforts.
- Foster independence: Allow your child to make decisions and learn from their mistakes, in a supportive environment.
- Spend quality time together: Take time to talk and listen to your child and show them that they are important.
And here's one final tip; if you really want to grow your child's confidence try an activity with them! Learn something new yourself and show them all the success and frustration that goes along with it. Then see the incredible power modelling positive behaviour has!
Let us know if these tips helped you and how you are helping your child gain confidence,
-Kim and Ori 💙💜